Our Blog

Insights, Facts, and More.

Thank you to Deborah Stumm, our partner at Super Moms 360, for sharing one of her recent blogs:

Middle school sucks. You couldn’t pay me enough money to go back. As the first born in my family, I didn’t have an older sibling to teach me how to be “cool.” As a result, I was definitely…not. I like to tell people that I may have had the world’s longest “awkward stage” with my wayward feathered hair, braces (actually had them twice), and questionable fashion choices. I can joke about it now, but middle school was a difficult time and I desperately wanted to be popular.

My daughter is now in her first year of middle school and she is already handling it more gracefully than I did.  That being said, we will often run into some of her peers while we are out and about and I will ask why she didn’t say hello. “Mom, she is a popular kid,” she will respond. Just these few words make me so angry and rip open my old wounds from a similar time in my life.

As a “tween-ager,” my daughter may not always be open to talking about things, but there are a few pieces of wisdom my former middle-school self would like to share with her:

1)      Don’t let anyone tell you they are better than you.  In my experience, the people who talk about how great they are tend to be the most insecure.

2)     Be yourself. Don’t ever change just to be liked by someone else. A true friend will accept you for being your unique self.

3)     Being “popular” when you are young doesn’t translate into success later in life. In fact, the kids who experience adult things too early tend to burn out. I love that many of the “nerds” in middle school and high school have turned out to be some of the most successful people I know.

4)     Don’t grow up too fast. There is no rush to wear make-up, shave your legs, try alcohol, or to have your first kiss. These are things to look forward to in life and I will be here for you when you are ready.

5)     Hold your head high and say hello. Acknowledge your friends and peers alike when you see them.  It’s amazing what a smile can do to break the ice.

6)     Embrace your individuality. Don’t try to fit in. You were put on this earth for a purpose and the world is a better place with you in it.

Hugging Mom and Daughter

Most of all, know that as your mom, I am always here for you. It wasn’t that long ago I felt I wasn’t pretty enough, skinny enough, smart enough, or popular enough.  I didn’t feel worthy. Let me tell you…you are AMAZING in every way. I am incredibly proud of you every moment of every day and you are going to do amazing things in this life. You will learn to fight your own battles, become resilient, and find your own strength. I will help guide you along the way and I will ALWAYS have your back. Stand tall, be proud, and know there is no one in this whole wide world that will ever be just like you.


Recommended Posts

Leave a Comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Please fill the required fields*